You don’t need that…
By Moises Linares
Photo by Virginia Bulacio
We all have them; they come in different personalities, they ignore you, distract you or simply don’t acknowledge your existence. People, I’m here to tell you, “You don’t need that.”
If you’re one of those persons that believe that you can change others, I pray that God shows you the light. Don’t get me wrong, people can change, but you can’t change people against their own will, please keep reading. What I’m saying is that people change on their own terms and not yours.
Have you ever heard guys saying they are after a girl but she really doesn’t respond? Yes, it happens. She probably doesn’t because you’re not the one for her. Maybe you don’t drive a BMW or Mercedes Benz, therefore she doesn’t want to be seen in your Toyota. Perhaps you don’t pop bottles in the club, so she doesn’t want to go out dancing with you. My friends let me tell you, “You don’t need that.”
Another example, like my sister once told me: “Can you write about guys dressing nice.” Truth is that if you are complaining about girls, you better be doing everything you’re suppose to be doing as well. Dressing nice is perhaps a really important thing, more like a priority. If you need advice, is called GQ magazine. Quit wasting your money on liquor and booze and go buy yourself some new shoes because “You don’t need that.”
If the girl you’re after is more concerned about how much money you spend on her every time you go out, “You don’t need that.” Who ever you date should like you for who you are inside. This does not give you the right to be a cheap ass. You’re still supposed to offer to pay, buy dinner, open the door to your car, and compliment your girl on how beautiful she looks. I personally learned that lesson the hard way many years ago. I decided that if that was the case, I would turn in to the biggest sweetheart this universe has ever seen.
Back to the point….
I tell my girlfriends the same thing. Stop worrying about how much “Swag” guys have. ‘Swag’ will only get you so far in this life. Let’s see where your man’s ‘swag’ is 10 years from now without higher education. Not that you need a higher education degree to be successful but today “Swagg” went from cool to thuglife, “Say what?”
“I have swagg, check my shoes homie.” That is indeed not winning.
Ladies, I’ve noticed that real smart girls are in long committed relationships, maybe because ‘Swagg’ is not a priority. I salute those smart ones’ still remaining. If guys aren’t responding your text messages, “You don’t need that.” If a guy can’t respect you for whom you are, doesn’t acknowledge your effort and spends more time with his friends than he does with you, “You don’t need that.” It’s 2012, maybe it’s time we’ll do some cleaning in our lives, get rid of the people who serve as bad influence. Hey, don’t get mad at me for telling you the truth.
In general…..
If you have people who are a hazard to your good health, job, goals and future, I can easily tell you that, “You don’t need that.” Goodness sake, let’s all join forces and get rid of the people who’ve put a halt on our road to success. This life is too short to waste it on people who take up space in our lives. Instead, embrace and hold tight to those who influence your life in a positive manner. I’m not the guru here, we’re learning together. Life is a journey, a roller coaster that we control, it’s not easy but I’m sure we’ll live.
If people are too busy, work too much or are always unavailable, friends do your self a favor an cut them off. Have some dignity for your own sake. No such thing as being too busy to send a ‘hello’ text. It takes about 30 seconds or less, I’ve timed myself. Don’t be cruel and tell people you don’t like them, simple as that. People who ignore you, or are too occupied all the time. People who constantly cancel on you but you see them partying with other people when you check your FB, “You don’t need that.”
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Final review of the London 2012, Olympics
All about sports in The Sports Booth with Moises Linares
By Moises Linares
In the sports booth talks about the final events in the Olympics. What did the Olympics leave the fans? Who won the last gold medals. Possible changes coming to the sport of basketball. Usain Bolt takes another gold medal. In the sports booth talks to MMAinterviews.tv analyst Spencer Lazara about UFC150. Special guest and Los Angeles Galaxy insider Adam Serrano talks soccer. A look into the NBA, MLB and NFL all that and more on this edition of “In the sports booth.”
Click here to listen to the last review of the Olympics.
Back in my day
By Moises Linares
“Go to the corner” punishment
One of the most popular lines you hear old folks saying is usually “back in my day” in reference to when they were young. Yes, times have changed and they keep changing as many of us might have noticed. While some change with time, others simply question where our society is heading. Momentarily when I sit in retrospect and remember my childhood, I recall a discipline I can hardly see other parents practice in present time.
The generations behind us have lost the morals that many of our parents implemented. I come from a generation of playing sports and being outdoors, hiking and playing soccer on Saturdays and Sundays. My punishments consisted of losing the privilege of playing the sport that I most love, soccer (Besides the belt.)
Today I look around and see young children with on the go video games. You no longer have to be a couch potato at home, you now have the opportunity to be a potato in the car.
What I’m about to say is completely illegal, I don’t suggest you do any of the following to be clear. As a kid, I grew up in a household where discipline and manners were the number one rule. The belt was the number one enemy at times. The belt symbolized that you had broken the rules of the house in the worse way possible. Yet my mother was never big on public exhibition. She simply gave you the look and whispered, “When we get home!” Now, many of my African American friends and Latino friends could relate to those words. When my mother was in a good mood my siblings and I would get a lecture, but we always exceeded expectation therefore we got the belt with full benefits.
My mother always said it was out of love, so she thought. My butt surely disagreed with her, but I knew mom was right and I was wrong. I must admit one of the punishment I hated the most was going to the corner and getting on my knees for around an hour with my hands up in the air. That usually worked and I thought about doing things twice. I love my mother for all the things she did and has done for me. I no longer get punishments, I get lectures and life stories that I carry inside for when I have to correct my children in the future. My mother like most Latina mothers didn’t believe in “Go to your room.” I could only imagine an answer like “I hate you mom, you’re so not cool, I’m running away!” Those statements would have me toothless at a very young age.
No, my mother was not perfect, in all honesty there’s no perfect parent, they’ll commit mistakes and learn from them. Is our society changing? Yes. The problem is that is changing in the wrong direction. Imagine a generation of bad behaved children turning into parents and raising kids of their own, what then? There’s still time to change a lot of this.
Our change starts at home, it starts with us correcting our kids in a proper manner. Encouraging them to get out and play sports, getting involved with the community and socializing face to face. Yet again making smarter choices as parents and preventing our younger siblings and kids from being bad behaved. I’m not super dad, but it does bother me seeing children talk back to their parents, I wish my mother would pop out and say, “When we get home.” With the look of death she typically gave my siblings and I when we were kids. There are too many people saying, “Where did I go wrong?” and not enough saying, “Not in my watch buddy.”
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Another form of discipline is La Chancla.
By Mun2
Online Dating Anyone?
By: Moises Linares
eHarmony one of the biggest online dating sites.
Photo by: Virginia Bulacio
I have to admit that I’ve been blind to the world of online dating. In a recent conversation with one of my close friends, I’ve come to realize that online dating is growing more than I imagined. Proof of that are the people around me who actually use online dating sites to find dates, boyfriends, husbands and even occasional flings.
While at dinner, a girlfriend was telling me the story of a phenomenal date she had been on. I must admit, I was happy, thrilled and excited for her until I asked where she had met the guy. “Well, I met him on OkCupid,” she said. I was confounded for about 10 seconds. I had no idea what Ok Cupid was, I had never heard of this website. Heck, the only sites I know of are Match.com and eHarmony since I see them every where I turn.
Back to my friend…
The guy she met was a big shot, great job, mature, expanded vocabulary, she proceeded to tell me he even quoted Ernest Hemingway. “Hemingway?” I asked, I almost spit my drink back out like they do in the movies for dramatic effect. I didn’t go that far just in case you’re wondering.
Hemingway- “ A man can be destroyed but not defeated.” “All my life I’ve looked at words as though I were seeing them for the first time.” In other words this guys was a real stud, an intellectual. The first thing I thought about was, “I want to be like him when I grow up.”
To the point….
Mr. Intellectual provided my friend with one of the best dates she has ever be on. Yet a few days later, he vanished and was never seen again. I guess that might be normal, maybe he didn’t like her, yet he said he did. He offered to take her out again, even made plans for the following month. Yes, one month!
However, after that awesome date he went missing. I suggested her to put his picture on the milk carton, “Have you seen me?” I told her that in my opinion as a man, he was probably expecting to hit a ‘Home-Run’ but she didn’t follow. She didn’t want to believe that her prince charming would do such a thing.
Online dating…
I was on a mission to see what all the fuss was about. I did what every journalist would do, I did my research and started asking questions. One of my friends told me she contemplated the idea. She had been warned to be able to distinguish Match.com from eHarmony.com. She was told that the first one is basically a booty call website, while the second one is the real deal. I know a lot of you sneaky male friends are going to start looking into this.
I continued digging and then I asked myself if I had ever done online dating…
Well, I’ve met a couple of friends through some online friends, this has led to several dates, some successful and some very awkward. Nevertheless I have made a few good friends from these experiences.
While researching, I found out that I can find my single grandmother a boyfriend on a website is called seniorpeoplemeet.com. If you guys have single grandparents, maybe you should set them up on a date. I also found another site that hooks single parents up. I was truly amazed at how much online dating has grown. This led me to an article that said that around 40 million people use online dating sites. Yikes! What have I been doing all this time? No wonder I don’t have a girlfriend, they’re all online. Duh!
Online dating is the reason why two of my friends’ relatives got married, they met their spouses on christianmingle.com. Even christian people have a website where they get set up, if you are not content with the choices the Lord has provided you with in your church, you can go online to meet fellow christians as well.
For all the girls looking to be taken care of, I also found you a site, sugardaddy.com. It comes with great benefits and “seniors” who would love to take care of you, if you know what I mean!
When you really think about it, MySpace and Facebook is also a form of online dating. You see someone on your friend’s list you find cute or attractive, they add you, or you add them, start talking and eventually go out. I know my ex co-worker/friend and my friend found each other on my Facebook page. All of a sudden they were in a committed relationship, it happens. Don’t ask me how that ended up because I’ll say, “No comment.”
At the end of the day, the most important thing I found was that online dating really exists. The idea that I can set my grandmother up with a future grandfather to my siblings and I is also pretty nice.
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